Why Failure is Needed for Self-Growth

by - August 29, 2018

We all have had some rough and tiresome days, that’s no secret. Mistakes are made almost every day, and yet some of us are still at a loss as to what to do after they fail; they almost always hang on to it, reliving that failure repeatedly as some form of self-punishment. If this sounds like you, then let me tell you something: I have been where you are, and believe me when I say this, you don’t have to keep punishing yourself. If you were able to accept failure and welcome it, instead of dreading it, I bet your life would be a whole lot simpler.

Often, our fear of failure is embedded in our fear of being judged and losing our friends or family's respect. We are both scared and influenced by what people say and think about us (whether we like to admit it, or not). But remember, this is your life, not theirs. What one person swears to be true about you, is not the truth about you, so don't give too much power to them; don't take their opinions of you so seriously, it could weaken your passion and confidence; weakening your ability to be successful in yourself and your career. Instead of seeking approval from others, seek self-confidence and self-respect. No one has enough power than you, yourself, to push you in the direction you want to go. 

Love yourself, and stay focused, everything will be okay and be right in the end.


Move on.

Tormenting yourself over your failures will not change the outcome. In fact, it will only make it worse, preventing you from moving on. You may not be able to change the past, but you can build and shape your future. You may not be able to prevent obstacles from popping up in your life, but you can choose how to react to them. They may block your vision temporarily, but if you persist, you will see the opportunities that have always been waiting for you on the other side of that fear. The faster you take a positive step forward, the quicker you can leave these dreadful thoughts behind and embrace the strong-willed, independent person you always were.

Burn those bridges!

It’s difficult to gain momentum and carry on with your aspirations when you’re still stuck in the past; always considering and beating yourself up over the “what ifs:” What if I didn’t do that… What if I did do that… What if…. To succeed in building your self-confidence and self-respect, you must want to burn those bridges, and actually do it and never so much as glance at that rear-view mirror; instead, look forward to your future of self-growth. You got this!

Take a different road.

If something isn’t going right for you, then there’s a possibility that either you’re not doing it right, or you just lack the correct tools and support. That’s okay! Don’t panic or get angry, there are tons of different ways to succeed in the area you are trying to succeed in. You must ask yourself, “what else can I do?” and do a little research on all the possibilities to help you. If you’re not sure on what to do, then get in touch, I’ll help you figure that out!

Closer to Your Goals

Unfortunately, there aren't any shortcuts when it comes to you and your goals. And you realized that, haven't you? Otherwise, you wouldn't be here, reading a post about how to accept failure, instead of reading one saying "how to bypass failure altogether." 

You’ve started, but it’s a lot harder than you first thought. Maybe it’s taking too long, and you think you will never succeed. But, you know what? You will. Remember, every step, no matter how small, hard, or frustrating, brings you closer to that goal you want to accomplish. Keep taking those steps. Keep steady on your course. With each obstacle you overcome, you are inching your way toward that vision. You are learning, and you are growing. That right there is an accomplishment.


Bottom line is, failure is great. You heard me: great. It makes us stronger, kinder and wiser. We learn from failure. So, keep your head up. You’re doing okay.

Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is a delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing. - Denis Waitley


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25 comments

  1. I believe every single word in this post. True 100%~!

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  2. I agree wholeheartedly with the views you expressed in this post. Failure is part of life. If you do not experience failure, you would not know success. Failure is almost an foundation for bigger and better things.

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  3. I want to share this with my students. They need to be allowed to make mistakes and learn from those mistakes, so that they do better the next time.

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    1. Of course, everyone needs to understand that mistakes are not the end of the world, it's how we learn and grow as human beings

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  4. Definitely needed this today! Thank you.

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    1. You're welcome! Thank you for taking time out of your day to commentXoxo We all need reminders, don't worry, I know I do!

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  5. This post hits the spot right on! We need to be reminded more often about failure for self-growth.

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  6. You said it! Failure is how we learn to do better, it’s how we grow and how we, it’s how we achieve greater and bigger goals. Plus I love the quote at the end of your post. Failure can only be avoided by being nothing! We all fail. It’s human. Just how we get back up determines the outcome. Thanks for reminding me. ❤️

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    1. Thank you for your kind words. I love the quote as well, I have it written on little post-it notes and have it in almost every single room in my home ahaha! Xo

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  7. Beautifully written and very inspirational. I read somewhere that "Failure is not the opposite of success it's part of success" and I'am completely on it.

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    1. Thank you so much! I believe that - you cannot have success without failure, it's just not possible! Xo

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  8. I loved reading this! Especially the witty "how to bypass failure altogether." haha :) failure is part of life and it helps us grow :) xx

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  9. This is ridiculously accurate! I work better once the fear of failure is out of the way! Thanks for sharing

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  10. You have a very interesting take on the burning the bridges. All my life I have always heard be careful not to burn bridges but I must say I like the concept on moving on and not going back, in which case you must burn that bridge. Very enlightening post thank you.

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  11. I could not agree more with your advice and life lessons.

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  12. Our life is the best teacher - no matter if it is good and bad. No matter if we make mistakes or we succeed.

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  13. In the words of Les Brown, "Everything that's worth doing is worth doing badly... until you get it right."

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  14. Ahhh! I love a self-growth blog. Thanks for sharing this. Much needed.

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  15. What you write there appeals to me. Failure is not nice to experience but it does give us motivation, grounding and awareness that you need to keep at it and maybe change things. Great read.

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  16. It’s so important to move on from your mistakes. Failures are a great way to learn 💗

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  17. Great post! I am always thinking about the "What if's" and trying to avoid them by doing what feels right even if it makes me nervous.

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  18. I agree that failures can be as important as success. We learn and grow from failures.

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  19. I totally agree with everything in this post.
    I am not sure where it started by somehow society has decided that you are supposed to have your life figured out by the time you are 18. Yes, some people just always know what they want to do their whole lives but most have no clue. I think this sets up many for failure because they pick a career out of an expectation of others rather than basing it of a passion.

    We fear failure also because we are no longer taught how to get through the heartache of it. Every child makes the team or gets a trophy. I remember being in school and being the last kid picked or not making a team and I learned the value in finding things that I am good at rather than doing things that I am not good at.

    Great post~!

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  20. You are so right! We all need failure, and we can never succeed with out it. It's just a sign that we need to change or go a different way.

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  21. Very well written and so true! Thank you for sharing!!

    xx Sara
    https://sararentas.wixsite.com/blog/

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