Coping with Depression

by - August 08, 2018

Depression not only drains your energy, it drains your hope, drive, and will; which makes it all that much harder to feel better. It’s completely normal to experience a variety of emotions at once, but while trying to overcome depression is far from being easy, it is also not impossible. No matter how severe your depression is, you have more control than you realize. From my own personal experience, I realized the key is to go through the emotions, don’t fight them, don’t hide from them, and don’t lie about them. Feeling better takes time, don’t try to rush anything. If you make positive choices each day, then easing your way through this never-ending battle will be somewhat simpler. 

I know it might sound difficult right now, but trust me, it’s not as hard or as painful as it is where you might be right now. I know your energy might be slim, but it's important that you pick up a phone and call a loved one or turn on your laptop or phone and find someone online and just talk. Reaching out and connecting is so important to depression recovery; staying connected to the outside world might help your mood and your will tremendously. Doing the things that make you smile more often helps a lot, as well. You have to do things that will help relax you and give you energy. Whether that’s meditating, yoga, exercising, walking through the woods, or even petting your dog for an hour or two (trust me, I've done it).

I like to sit on the beach and listen to the waves of the ocean and the seagulls. Whether it is day or night, or if I am in the middle of a class, I go there because it helps. I don’t know what it is about nature, but it truly is the best medicine I have ever found when it comes to my mental health.

While I was going through my… “episodes” of depression, I felt defeated, afraid, and hopeless. No one knew what I was going through because I never told them. And you know what? I wish I did tell them; the loneliness, abandonment, and hopelessness that I felt, was of my own doing. I didn’t see it then, but I see it now. 

Of course, depression is not exactly curable; I still have my episodes and they can get really bad, but now that I talked to my other half and best friend and opened up about everything, I have a support system in place. And it helps a LOT. So don’t be afraid to reach out to someone, it doesn’t even have to be a person in real life; reach out to someone over the internet, someone who you can connect with; because hiding something as serious as depression from others to "spare them," can be extremely harmful to your body, mind, and soul. Even dangerous at times. The only way to “win” this battle, is to accept that you need help, accept who you are, and realize that you are not alone. Once you accept this, you will be better prepared for the next time.

You have a purpose in life, and I want you to know that you are never alone. If you need someone to talk to, or need someone to just listen to you, I am always here. I know how you feel and what you are going through because I have been there myself. Hell, I still am. So let's fight together.

I hope this helped you in some sort of way, whether big or small. Thank you so much for reading, and I hope you feel better soon. Remember, you are not alone, you are worth it, you are beautiful, and you are needed. 


Disclaimer: I am in no way a professional or a doctor, this is from my own experiences only; what worked for me, may not work for you. Always, always, always do your own research and/or consult with a professional.

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17 comments

  1. This was a powerful and needed article. As a society we fail to recognize that mental illness is truly debilitating and devastating to those who suffer from it. I struggle with depression in high school and I had to go to counseling just to have someone to talk to. Thank you for reminding us that we don't have to suffer quietly; find anyone to talk to because it does help.

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    1. Mental illness is a dark topic, I've noticed. Not a lot of people are willing to speak about it because it is uncomfortable for them... Trying living with it though, right? There needs to be more awareness; perhaps, if there were more resources and more people to reach out to I wouldn't have struggled so much in the past. It was only recently that I finally found someone to speak to about my problems and the demons that I face, and I have to say it is such a relief to talk to someone who I know will not judge me or think I am making it seem worse than it actually is. All it takes is that one person who truly shows that they care Xo Stay strong, AJ

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  2. Thank you for sharing your journey. I admire you for that. It is not easy, and you are very brave to talk about it.

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words, and thank you for taking time out of your day to comment Xo

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  3. I have struggled with depression throughout my life. I no longer do. It seems to have lifted when I started praying using the Stormie O'Martin books. And I started to listen to worship music. I am sorry you have struggled with this, too. I realized I was replaying lies in my heard over and over again. Replacing it with prayer and scripture changed things.

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  4. It does help, it helps share your own journey with others and helps them not feel alone. I appreciate this post

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  5. Depression really sucks. There are times when you want to do something but you just can't do it and not a lot of people understand it.

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  6. Thank you for sharing your journey and being so open. I'm glad you have found things that help ease your symptoms :)

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  7. Thank you for sharing your struggles and how you cope. I respect your transparency!

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  8. I have definitely been there. I have severe anxiety and moderate/sever depression. I am trying to manage it. I find that taking things a baby step at a time is helpful

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  9. Like I said before, I'm so glad you are sharing this and continuing this conversation that needs to be had.

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  10. This is a really beautiful post ❤ thanks for opening up, I have really bad anxiety and it makes me feel stronger when I see people opening up about what they're going through too! :) xx

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    1. It was definitely difficult to do, as I have family and friends that still don't know what I struggle with. Only my spouse and best friend since elementary school! It took a long while to even publish such a post, and even considered deleting it, but I couldn't knowing that there was a chance this could help at least someONE in some way Xo

      Thank you for commenting!

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  11. I have been through depression as well. I want to share my journey to you, and everyone who are reading this. I want to keep inspiring other people and remind them that if I made it, they will too. Here is my blog: www.alexslopez.com

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